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Life Update: We’re moving!

Lifestyle

15 May

During the pandemic, my husband’s job brought us to Tennessee, somewhere we’d considered moving to since we were in Buffalo, NY for dental school. It was always kind of on our side radar of somewhere we’d like to live. We found our dream home (shortly after moving into a different house!) in Knoxville and have since fallen in love with this beautiful state. The weather, the people, the scenery, the Vols, rivers, lakes, trees, flowers, charming homes. It was exactly what we’d been looking for. We found what we hoped would be our “forever” home. Although, I’ve learned not to say that anymore.

Finding our dream home didn’t solve life’s problems but it did give us refuge to weather the storms of life. Creating a home is my passion and I was able to do that here. I started homeschooling the boys and it’s been one of my most treasured memories. Having them home for the last 4 years in this home was something I’ll cherish forever.

While we’ve been here in Tennessee, we’ve had so many highs and lows. I’ve shared some of them. I don’t want to get into details but I’ve struggled with severe anxiety, seasons of depression, religious concerns, relationship changes, work-related challenges. I had some hormonal and health issues – likely brought on by the extreme stress I was taking on.

I always try to remain positive but the challenges were piling up and my body was breaking down. I’ve tried to navigate sharing my life online and dealing with the negativity that inevitably comes with it; mean comments, gossip, trolls and just rude feedback about my home and my life. When you put yourself out there, it is pretty much inevitable but it just is what it is. I try to delete and block and not concern myself too much with that part but it does weigh on you after 14 years.

Wake me up when September ends.

In September of 2023, I hit a low point. We were renovating our backyard all last spring/summer and looking back, I used it as a distraction from the overwhelm, loneliness and anxiety I was feeling. It worked some days. I was so excited about it and it was turning out beautifully so it kept me going. I was having about 4-5 bad days a week where I could barely function. I was so, so sad, all the time. It wasn’t the life in front of me that was wrecking me. It was the life behind me that I was still dragging along. Little Mallory was so so broken deep down inside. I was ready to go to a doctor to get help with it, but I didn’t. I was afraid to be put on medication due to family history issues with it and I just couldn’t, even though I’m certain I needed something. I let my family’s past and my own fears stop me from getting the help I desperately needed.

I launched Monarch Home on September 13, in the middle of this low point and it only pushed me down further. The workload involved was too much. I was adding SO much to my plate and literally didn’t know how to ask for help. There were days when I considered shutting it all down. I’m an Enneagram 3 and struggle hardcore with asking for help. I think I “should” be able to handle it all and I couldn’t. I feared Craig would give up on me because I felt sad 80% of the time. Spoiler alert: he didn’t.

Healing

In the fall, I started working with a functional health doctor to get my hormones figured out. My thyroid was acting up and I was diagnosed with MTHFR which required some dietary changes. I had every symptom of PMDD too. I started working with a therapist to learn how to heal from past trauma and pain that I was convinced was causing my anxiety and depressive episodes. I’ve worked through so much over the years but I felt unable to use the tools I’d learned anymore. What once worked, simply wasn’t.

The grief and emotional pain was too much and it was manifesting into physical pain. Finally asking for help saved me, then it changed me although it took months for any relief. Since getting help, nearly every aspect of my life has changed. I started prioritizing my health and healing. I slowly started to see the light. I finally started to feel like me again. I started to feel creative (this was a big deal!) and felt the debilitating anxiety that I had learned to live with, dissipating. Dissolving. I felt like the real me for the first time in years. Free.

A new year

I consider myself a happy person. I’ve practiced gratitude much of my adult life after having an extremely dysfunctional and traumatic childhood. Those that have been around for a while know there are parts of my childhood story that have holes in it. They’re big holes. I’ve always looked for the good in life and in people and it’s carried me through a lot of trials. I think I was generally happy but I battled anxiety and sat on the edge of depression for most of my adult life. Not always because of circumstances, but because I had unaddressed trauma from childhood that was quite literally trapped inside me, buried, constantly triggering me into feeling worry.

In January, I felt like I was coming back to life. I know that sounds insanely dramatic but it was as if this heaviness and fog had lifted. I started healing from everything I had buried deep down. I prioritizing myself, relationships, friends, and community after 3-4 years of sort of isolating myself outside of my smallest circle of family and friends. I started to dream again.

In the last couple of months, my mind has felt clear. I am happy. Really happy. I started to notice that unsettling feeling that often warns me when a change is coming. It wasn’t a bad feeling but it was something. It’s definitely a feeling I recognize. We all felt it. We knew something was going to change. Not sure what. We stumbled through a few ideas like traveling, flipping a property, investing in a vacation home, buying land and building a homestead — all things we’re still considering in the next few years! Very exciting ideas!

We all generally felt like things were good but all 7 of us felt like we wanted to be closer to our family and friends. Every family meeting led us to that conclusion but we were stumped so we carried on. Our family and closest friends, live all over the country so that was difficult to address. We had some family move out here last summer but they’ve all since returned out west.

We’ve found ourselves driving to Nashville quite often because most of our Tennessee friends live there. We kept feeling this pull to go that direction but I couldn’t fathom the idea of leaving our dream home that I’ve worked so freaking hard on so we just continued to drive 3 hours there and 3 hours back to see them.

Spring

We spent Spring Break and Easter in Nashville with several of our closest family friends. You know the friends that feel like family? Kids feel like cousins, girlfriends that feel like sisters, girlfriend’s husbands that feel like brother in laws. A bunch of our “chosen family” were all together for Easter weekend. It was so much fun! I couldn’t help but notice how much fun the boys were having. I felt whole with my girlfriends there and our kids running around the farm. I noticed Craig having real, meaningful conversations with our friends, something I hadn’t seen him do in a long time. In this big group, we belonged. I pulled Craig aside and told him I think we had to move there. I told him how I’d noticed him and the boys and he said he’d noticed too. My head was spinning. This tug wouldn’t let up but I was holding on TIGHT to my Knoxville home.

Fast forward just a few weeks, we put an offer on a home in the Nashville area and WE GOT IT. We found a home, in a gorgeous neighborhood, with a million projects to do, just minutes away from a ton of our friends, including the Gizzis!! We will be just MINUTES apart!

As I’m sure you know, there are MANY MANY things to consider when moving. This was a personal decision, carefully thought out by Craig, our boys and I. While I think moving to be near friends is an amazing idea, there are SO many other factors, many that aren’t mine to share that led to this decision. We obviously have to consider Craig’s current career and his goals, my businesses ( a lot of big things coming!!!), current and future financial goals, our kids schedules, sports, friends and desires. Church, family, travel, etc. I’m not going to share all that went into it but while we posted it “out of the blue”, know that there’s A LOT more to the story!

I’d be lying if I didn’t cry at the thought of leaving our current home but at the end of the day, it’s just a building. I made it “home” and I’ll do it again. Our new home is on a beautiful lot and has great bones but is due for a full remodel! How convenient! This won’t be our forever home but it is perfect for our next step.

Our BIG dream is to build a home similar to our Knoxville home but with some land and a barn in the NASHVILLE area!

There’s a lot going on but let’s just say I AM MANIFESTING some things that are SO dear to my heart. IT’S HAPPENING!

Update: The praying and manifesting WORKED!!! Craig’s brother (the one that used to be married to my sister!) his wife and their 6 kids, moved to Franklin!!! He was looking to relocate but his career was leading the relocation and he literally landed an amazing job right here in Franklin!

I’m so excited to take y’all along for the ride and I’m so ready to see the future we’re creating! 

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  1. Megan says

    May 15, 2024 at 10:59 pm

    Amazing! So happy for you to be near friends. I can’t wait to see all the projects on the new home!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 2:00 pm

      I can’t wait to share them! Thank you!

      Reply
  2. Chelsea says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:02 pm

    How exciting! Congratulations on your new adventure! It will be a blast to see you remodel your new home! Do you think you’ll keep homeschooling your boys?

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  3. Chelsea says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:05 pm

    Amazing Mallory!! Excited for y’all 💕 Will be praying for your journey and precious family! You’ve got this sis!!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:58 pm

      You are so kind, thank you for being here!

      Reply
  4. Kristy says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:21 pm

    I have loved following you since the classy clutter days and I am praying for you and your family and that what’s best for ya”ll will work out! ❤️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:58 pm

      Thank you so much!

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  5. Shalise says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:21 pm

    This is exciting and I am so happy for you guys

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:58 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  6. Lindsey says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:22 pm

    Love this. Love you and your sweet heart. I’m so sorry for the struggles you’ve gone through, and I’m so grateful you never gave up. I’ve had a rough season recently too, and I was just telling my hubby I think I need to talk to a counselor about it… Thanks for being so wonderful and so inspiring,even on days when you didn’t feel like you were, or know you were- you were. I’ll keep praying for God to guide you through all this.

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    • Janer says

      May 17, 2024 at 6:40 pm

      I’m so happy for you all I am thankful you share real life! It helps me! Im thankful! 🦋🦋🦋

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      • mallorynikolaus says

        May 30, 2024 at 1:41 pm

        I am so happy to hear that it helps you! Thank you for sharing that with me!

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  7. Louise G says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:27 pm

    Congratulations on the new pathway. It takes a lot of courage to make life changing decisions! I’m here for it!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:57 pm

      Thank you!!

      Reply
  8. Luba says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:36 pm

    So happy for your new adventure! I really feel you, with friends and seeing your husband connect and have meaningful relationships is so big, a home is where you all are! Thank you for sharing your heart! Really glad I read this, wish I could give you a hug and say thank you!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:56 pm

      Sending you a virtual hug! xoxo

      Reply
  9. Sharon B says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:40 pm

    East TN will miss you, but happy that you’re making moves for your heart and heath. I always looked around when in HD thinking I may run into you 😊

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    • CathySue says

      May 16, 2024 at 12:12 am

      So thrilled for you and your beautiful family. I love how invested you are in your healing and happiness. Keep being the light for us all.

      Reply
      • mallorynikolaus says

        June 3, 2024 at 1:49 pm

        Thank you SO much!!

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    • Julie Green says

      May 16, 2024 at 9:01 am

      Thanks so much for being so open about your struggles. I think as a Mom, wife and career girl …..and you home school all of your boys, that is a very heavy load to handle. This move to be near those that love you, your husband and boys, sounds like a perfect situation! I look forward to seeing how your new adventure plays out!!!!!! God bless you and your entire family.

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      • mallorynikolaus says

        May 30, 2024 at 2:26 pm

        It’s tough out there, but we can do hard things! Thank you so much for your support! I can’t wait to share our upcoming adventures!

        Reply
  10. Rachel H says

    May 15, 2024 at 11:46 pm

    Your news and story of pulling through, makes me so happy for you and your family. I love your IG stories and the renovations. I can’t wait to see what you do next!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:55 pm

      Thank you! I look forward to sharing them!

      Reply
  11. Trisha P. says

    May 16, 2024 at 12:08 am

    This makes me SO incredibly happy for you and your family!!! I cannot wait to see what’s next! Good luck on the move and know that whomever decides to buy your house…they are SO lucky to be somewhere where love was poured into every floor board and paint stroke! Wishing you and your family all the best in this next adventure!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:54 pm

      Thank you so much! This makes me so happy!

      Reply
  12. Kate Lloyd says

    May 16, 2024 at 12:13 am

    Thanks for sharing your personal journey, even with the negative aspects of that. So many of us are on your side and cheering you right along. Congrats on this next, happy step! May it bring great happiness and joy!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:48 pm

      Thank you for following along!

      Reply
  13. Simone Howes says

    May 16, 2024 at 12:46 am

    Coming from a country on the other side of the world (and hemisphere lol) I am so happy I came across you on IG. I have loved watching the beautiful home you, Craig and the boys created. I am 100% Confident that you will achieve it again. Home is your family, and as you said, a house is just a building.

    As someone who is in denial about their mental health, I truly Thank You for sharing your trials and your journey. I know what I need to do, now I need to be courageous.
    Sxx
    #familyisnotjustblood #livewhatyoulove💞

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:48 pm

      Wow! I am so glad you did as well! Thank you for sharing and for your support!

      Reply
  14. Kristy Wicks says

    May 16, 2024 at 3:14 am

    I’m so happy for all the sunshine that’s back in your life and for your beautiful supportive friends!! You’ve got this and I can’t wait to follow along on your incredibly exciting journey..🩷
    Hugs!! xoxo

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:47 pm

      I so appreciate that! Thank you so much!

      Reply
  15. Jamie Marabillas says

    May 16, 2024 at 4:31 am

    Thank you for posting this. I have followed you for awhile now your life has always looked so perfect. I know not to assume that about anyone but to know you struggled so much behind the scenes is sad. I am glad you have found answers and are doing much better!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:46 pm

      Thank you so much for your support!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      June 3, 2024 at 1:47 pm

      Thank you for your kind words!

      Reply
  16. Kim says

    May 16, 2024 at 4:35 am

    I wish you, your husband, and your boys all the best. You and your dear family deserve all the happiness. I am have been a mental health nurse for almost 10 years. Everything you said resonates with me. I wish you happiness 😊.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:33 pm

      What a great achievement of almost a decade of helping others with mental health! Thank you, Kim, for the kind words!

      Reply
  17. Melissa Panzer says

    May 16, 2024 at 7:09 am

    I can only imagine how hard of a decision it was to leave your beautiful home, you have put your heart and soul into it! I’m so so sorry for all of the ups and downs you have been through. I suffer from PTSD and major anxiety disorder myself so I can relate. It is crippling. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts and praying for all God‘s glory to be shined upon you and your new adventure! Best wishes, to the whole family, you guys are strong and solid, and that will get you through anything! Have fun!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:30 pm

      It was a hard decision, but so so excited for what the bright future holds! Thank you so much for your kind words!

      Reply
  18. Daniela says

    May 16, 2024 at 7:22 am

    Thank you for sharing this. Some of us that have followed you since Arizona felt somewhat entitled to know the reasons behind this move LOL. Of course we shouldn’t , as you stated it’s many people involved and many reasons for it. You did such a great job hiding your depression and I’m sure that took a bigger toll on you. Glad to hear you found a way to heal. I am excited for you to take us along on his new journey. Thank you for always sharing your live.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:28 pm

      I appreciate your support!

      Reply
  19. Lori Luttrell says

    May 16, 2024 at 10:05 am

    Thank you for sharing your sweet soul with us! Some of us need to hear these stories and realize we aren’t alone. I cannot wait to see your next project! You go GIRL!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:25 pm

      I cannot wait to share the next project! Thank you for listening and for your support!

      Reply
  20. Jenna says

    May 16, 2024 at 10:27 am

    I’m so happy for you! I hope this move brings you peace and happiness!!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:23 pm

      Thank you, Jenna! It was a hard decision, but I know it will bring so much joy!

      Reply
  21. Kristina Tonis says

    May 16, 2024 at 10:35 am

    Hello sweetie-

    You are a true inspiration and I know that God has a bigger and better plan for you, just know that he will never give you nothing that you can’t handle. I’m so very excited for you and your family and this next chapter in your life! Thank you so much for having the courage to share the way you have.
    Lots of love and blessings,
    Kristina Tonis

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:22 pm

      I appreciate your sincere words and support! Thank you, Kristina! We are so excited to see what the future holds.

      Reply
  22. Angel says

    May 16, 2024 at 10:44 am

    What’s important is that you’ll all be happy and together with people that love you. You’re right that house was just a building, wherever your family is makes it a home. Good luck in your next adventure. Stay strong.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:21 pm

      So true! Home is where your heart and family are! Thank you so much for the support!

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  23. Michelle Harte says

    May 16, 2024 at 11:01 am

    You will love Nashville. We loved living there. Now I live in Santa Rosa Beach, I love it here. Too. Time and time again I have said, The time, money and work you spend on yourself, your marriage and your kids is the best Time, Money and Work ever spent. I have loved following you and your family. You’re a joy to watch as a creator. Thank you for sharing your precious family and Amazing husband with us. You guys are doing Great things and I wish you nothing but love and success.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:19 pm

      Such true words to live by! It has been so much fun sharing my journey with all of you! Thank you so much!

      Reply
  24. Ruth Cleaver says

    May 16, 2024 at 11:33 am

    Mallory, , your honestly and your courage has always been inspiring to me! I’m so excited for your whole family. And I will be eagerly cheering you on from afar. Sending you a giant hug xx

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:02 pm

      Sending you a hug right back! Thank you so much, we can’t wait!

      Reply
  25. Nicole says

    May 16, 2024 at 12:05 pm

    I think you are amazing! Wherever you live, you will make beautiful; thank you for sharing all of your creative power with us. I am so glad you are healing and I am so sorry to hear of your sorrows. Best of luck to your family!! I am excited to see all you do in your new place!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 2:01 pm

      I am so glad to hear it has helped you! Thank you so much for the support. Exciting things are on the horizon and I can’t wait to share more when the time comes!

      Reply
  26. Kimberle A. Early says

    May 16, 2024 at 1:01 pm

    So happy for you and your family. You can make any house a home. Ignore the ‘mean’ girls and you do you. Keep working on yourself and do the best you can. You’ve got this!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:58 pm

      I agree, you can make any house a home! YES! We can do hard things! Thank you!

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  27. Kim Hannigan says

    May 16, 2024 at 2:08 pm

    You are a beautiful human. Thank you for being authentic and vulnerable. You have no idea how many people you may have helped or validated. That are/were going through similar situations. I don’t know you personally, but I feel like I do. Thank you for being YOU! Best of luck to you and your family on your continued and upcoming journey.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:56 pm

      It isn’t always easy, but it is a must! I so appreciate you being along for the journey and for your kind words! Thank you!

      Reply
  28. Shasta Wootan says

    May 16, 2024 at 3:27 pm

    You are amazing. That’s some hard stuff and I’m sorry for anything you have gone through and are still dealing with. But I am so excited for all thats ahead of you! I’ll be here cheering you on the whole way.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:55 pm

      The support means more than you know! You are amazing for your kind words! Thank you for sharing!

      Reply
  29. Laura says

    May 16, 2024 at 5:27 pm

    I love chosen family. Sending positive vibes on this next chapter of life.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:54 pm

      Positive vibes accepted! Thank you!!

      Reply
  30. Superhero says

    May 16, 2024 at 8:18 pm

    Many of us seem so “high functioning” but in reality are just trying to cope, trying to feel good. Your story is representative of so many. The world needs to hear more “real” stories like yours. Thanks for sharing.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:52 pm

      And thank you for your support!

      Reply
  31. Wendy Nichols says

    May 16, 2024 at 9:51 pm

    I’m so excited for you and your family! Your best days are ahead!! Thank you for your authenticity, for sharing your process and for prioritizing your faith, family, health and wellbeing. You are inspiring and I am so grateful for your courage to pursue healing. You’re leaving a great legacy for your family, and you graciously and bravely allow all of us the privilege to follow your beautiful life story. Praying for smooth transitions for all of you and great blessings and joy in the journey!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:52 pm

      Your prayers and kind words are so appreciated! Thank you for being a positive light here and supporting my journey! We are so excited about what the future holds!

      Reply
  32. Jennifer Wyeth says

    May 17, 2024 at 1:41 pm

    Congratulations! You seem truly incredible and this is a great example of how you don’t see the things people go through on the internet so people have no place to judge! Franklin is THE CUTEST town and I can’t wait to watch you remodel again!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:50 pm

      Thank you so much for the support! We are so looking forward to exploring our new town!

      Reply
  33. Kelly says

    May 17, 2024 at 6:28 pm

    Thank you for being so vulnerable in your blog post.
    Living your life on social media must be so challenging. As followers we fall in love with the people and their families and I have no doubt that many feel personally invested and then judge your choices without knowing the reality of your life.

    I’m also confident that you’re helping many that may be struggling with similar things.

    I wish you and your family nothing but happiness in your new chapter of life. 💕

    Reply
    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:44 pm

      Vulnerability is hard, but so important! My hope is also that my experience helps others going through a difficult season in life. Thank you for your kind words and for being so supportive!

      Reply
  34. Ashley Johnson says

    May 17, 2024 at 6:33 pm

    So happy for you and your family! It makes me sad that you were struggling so much! You are such. Light to me! I love to follow you and all your projects and your cute boys! Can’t wait to see you transform another house into a beautiful home! And how fun to be so close to great friends!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:42 pm

      It will be such a blessing to be closer to friends. Thank you so much for your kind words and support! I appreciate you!

      Reply
  35. Jean says

    May 17, 2024 at 6:56 pm

    So grateful that you feel hope again, Mallory. Congratulations on your new home. It’s obvious this next season will bring much joy to all of you. Well deserved. Wishing you nothing but peace, joy and happiness.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 30, 2024 at 1:38 pm

      So grateful as well, thank you so much for the support!

      Reply
  36. Becca says

    May 17, 2024 at 7:01 pm

    We will miss you all! Thank you for all the times you’ve invited the boys over for. They’ve had some great times there!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:34 pm

      Becca! We will miss you! So many good times and so grateful for the memories!

      Reply
  37. Nancy says

    May 17, 2024 at 8:08 pm

    Mallory,
    It sounds like you are back to living in the sunlight of the Spirit. Praise God!
    Please contact iapmd.org/about-pmdd for help if needed.
    You are a wonderful mother and wife. We love you!!!😘

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:33 pm

      Thank you so much. xoxo

      Reply
  38. Randy says

    May 17, 2024 at 9:45 pm

    I wish you all the best in this next chapter. Over the almost 37 years I have been married we have owned six homes, rented one apartment and a home in another country. Every one of those places was home because of the people in them and the memories we made there.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:33 pm

      So true! Home is where the heart is!

      Reply
  39. Courtney Conant says

    May 17, 2024 at 9:48 pm

    I may not know you personally, but I’ve been following your journey for years and have watched you flourish. Being a parent is tough, and we often strive to be strong for our family. Yet, you’re excelling. You’re aware of your areas for improvement and are actively working on them. Perfection may be unattainable, but you’re definitely on the path to happiness. It’s commendable that you recognize this and are pursuing it—many people don’t. Keep smiling and stay focused on what brings joy to you and your family. I’m excited to see where your next adventure leads.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:32 pm

      Thank you for sharing. I appreciate it! Cheers to new adventures!

      Reply
  40. Andrea DeLuca says

    May 17, 2024 at 9:54 pm

    Thank you for sharing I have been there and never ask for help! My daughter calls me the people pleaser, we please everyone but ourselves. Recently, I spent two years in therapy and it helped immensely. Although my husband and I just started couples therapy like you it’s complicated. Good news, I hate that I am not going to see your amazing house …..but so excited to watch you make your next home beautiful and find that amazing land to rebuild your magnificent home. So happy you will be close to Making Pretty Places. ❤️❤️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:32 pm

      Thank you for sharing, Andrea! Asking for help is hard but necessary sometimes. Thank you, I can’t wait to share more!

      Reply
  41. Paula Scott says

    May 17, 2024 at 10:07 pm

    I think the best part of this is that you’re looking for community. We all need that so desperately and I’m sad you didn’t find it here in Knoxville (I live here too). I hope your whole family feels at home in Franklin and you feel at peace there!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:31 pm

      yes, family is so important! Thank you!

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  42. Nancy Shadowens says

    May 17, 2024 at 10:13 pm

    Life and plans change. I know you love this home . But you and your family being happy and healthy is all that matters. And as long as y’all are together home is with them.. I can’t wait to see all the amazing projects you do on this new chapter in your life..Welcome to Nashville!!!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:30 pm

      Agreed! 🙂 Thank you, I can’t wait to share more soon!

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  43. Childers Cherie says

    May 17, 2024 at 10:30 pm

    Cool! Can’t wait to see what you do! Life is hard and it hurts sometimes…my grandma used to say it’s how you know you’re really alive

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:29 pm

      Your grandma was wise! It’s so true! Thank you!

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  44. Jen says

    May 17, 2024 at 10:44 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have had my own struggles with letting things I had no control over affect my current life. It’s so hard to see your way out of when you are in the thick of it – or when you are dragging your past around with you. I am happy to say that I am on the other side of things I have struggled with my entire adult life and the best way I could explain it to my husband was that I felt like I had cancer for 20+ years. I tried everything in the world to find a cure. Radiation, home remedies, etc. But when I finally found my solution – there was a HUGE weight lifted off of me and I FINALLY FELT CURED! I still struggle every once in a while – but it is only every once in a while!!! I’m so grateful that I put in the work and that I knew I was worth it and that my “cure” was out there.
    Thank you again,
    Hugs and blessings to you on your journey!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:28 pm

      Life is full of struggles and we all will continue to have them, but working to find the solution is so important. I am so glad you found yours. It is so freeing! Thank you!

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  45. Michelle says

    May 17, 2024 at 10:49 pm

    I am beyond proud of you for having the courage to sharing your struggles & your journey with us. You are honoring God so much with your vulnerability. Your obedience to Him is so inspiring. I know that He will continue to use you, because He can trust you. My prayer continues to be with you & your family. And I cannot wait to see what God will do next for you. 🦋

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  46. Janelle says

    May 17, 2024 at 11:03 pm

    I can totally relate to childhood trauma then that leading into depression. Also know how much it means when you have kids to have family around. I think you have such a talent for design you can make anything beautiful so I know this house will be too!! Congratulations I hope everything falls into place and you feel happier then ever.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:26 pm

      I so appreciate the comment and kind words! Thank you!

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  47. Britta Nerber says

    May 17, 2024 at 11:10 pm

    I’m so proud of you! You are so brave and encouraging for other women that are also struggling. I cant wait to see what you have in store for the future.❤️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:25 pm

      Britta, thank you! I hope it helps others as well!

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  48. Tiffany Hatch says

    May 17, 2024 at 11:15 pm

    I’m so glad you got help, you found clarity and you’re getting back your life!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:24 pm

      Thank you, I am so grateful to be where I am!

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  49. Melissa Turner says

    May 17, 2024 at 11:20 pm

    You mentioned religious struggles and also a church family in your post. My prayer is that you are actively seeking the one True God of the Bible. I’m not saying to reject help, therapy, or good friends; but Jesus Christ is our ultimate healer and seeking Him first is the only true path to complete healing. God may use many means to rescue you but His Word is His primary extension of Himself in an effort for you to get to know Him who alone can take away your sins, doubts, sorrow, anxiety, depression, etc.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:24 pm

      Much needed prayers and support. Thank you!

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  50. Sonja Friedman says

    May 17, 2024 at 11:21 pm

    My lifes mottos have changed through all of the different seasons of my 64 yo self. But for ages it’s been “life is subject to change”. I love how brave and from what I can tell fearless you are. And that your family is right there with you. It’s always exciting to see what comes next and what “mountain” you will climb!
    I’m so sorry for all the trials and pain you’re having to endure. You have the loveliest family and you should know and be proud of all the beauty you have created and leave behind for another family to love and enjoy. You have given so much to so many and I’m glad the few that don’t understand and dare I say jealous aren’t going to knock you down. My advice is to take your breaks when you need them. Your true supporters will always be here to cheer you on. Congratulations on this new exciting adventure 😘💋

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:18 pm

      Sonja, what a perfect motto. Life can throw you curve balls, but it all works out in the end! Thank you for your support and kind words.

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  51. Elva Bravo says

    May 18, 2024 at 12:20 am

    So, so happy for you and your family. I cannot to see what you do with the new place. Praying God continues to bless you abundantly always. Xoxo

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:13 pm

      Your support is greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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  52. Lynn says

    May 18, 2024 at 1:47 am

    I am so sorry to hear about your struggles, but thank you so much for sharing! Your honesty and vulnerability is what we need. We see all the ‘pretty’ but it’s nice to see normal! It helps us relate! Blessings to you and your family!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:13 pm

      Thank you! I agree! Life is a rollercoaster of ups and downs and it’s important to share!

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  53. Callie Keller says

    May 18, 2024 at 4:31 am

    Thank you for sharing this vulnerable story. You are incredibly talented and have such a good heart. You will make HOME anywhere you land.
    Good luck to you and your cute family! 🥰

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:05 pm

      And thank you for receiving it and for your kind words! We are so excited!

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  54. Susan Forte says

    May 18, 2024 at 6:13 am

    I always say….humor God, make plans! Congratulations on your new journey with your family. Change is hard but wonderful at the same time! Wishing the very best on your new adventure! Lots of love and keep on DIY’ing!! 😂

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:04 pm

      Thank you for following along and for your support! You are right, change is hard, but good at the same time!

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  55. Grazi @bckbulls says

    May 18, 2024 at 8:43 am

    You have no Idea How much I love, absolutely love, every inch of your insta. Your story, The hurdles of life that you have surpassed. You are THE WOMAN! i haver four boys, have been thru a real days of our lives soup opera, a,nd couldnt be more excited for you. We value our family our boys The same way! and rest assured that you have a 48 year old mom ALL The way down in Río de janeiro, Brazil, that IS cheering for you every step of The way and Will remain that way! Couldnt be more proud of you! ALL your dreams Will manifest into reality! Cant wait for This new chapter of your life! Love youuuu, best, Grazi

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:03 pm

      Grazi, I so appreciate you sharing some insight into your own story! It’s not easy, but moms can get through anything! You are the best! Thank you!

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  56. Yelines says

    May 18, 2024 at 10:07 am

    I’m so happy for you and your family. Wish you all the best in this new journey. Can’t wait to see all the new projects.

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 7:00 pm

      Thank you! Looking forward to sharing all the new projects!

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  57. Traci Viljanmaa says

    May 18, 2024 at 11:19 am

    Love this for you and your precious family! Change is good and I can’t wait to see what’s next! Hugs and prayers for your next journey!!!😊

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:59 pm

      Change is hard, but so good sometimes! Thank you so much for your support!

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  58. Tanis Liomin says

    May 18, 2024 at 12:07 pm

    It’s so important yo surround yourself with people who make you happy. You can make a house your home anywhere. So excited for you!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:59 pm

      So so true! It is so important! Home is where the heart is. Thank you!

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  59. Camille Walker says

    May 18, 2024 at 4:09 pm

    So happy that you are finding a place you belong. You leave beauty trails every where you go. Happy for you friend. I’ve had to take big steps back from online presence too. It’s a lot sometimes! So happy you’re taking care of you and your sweet family. Love you friend!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:58 pm

      You get it! I appreciate the support and kind words more than you know! Thank you!

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  60. Jamie Castaneda says

    May 18, 2024 at 5:02 pm

    Congratulations! Life is a journey full of unexpected turns and if God is leading the way, you know you are on the right path. Best wishes with the move!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 26, 2024 at 2:38 pm

      I can’t thank you enough for your support!

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  61. Jenny says

    May 18, 2024 at 5:33 pm

    I’m So Happy for you all!! It’s going to be great! Looking forward to seeing the journey!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 26, 2024 at 2:37 pm

      Thank you so much! I appreciate it xox

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  62. Yvonne says

    May 18, 2024 at 5:43 pm

    Home is wherever your husband and children are…..go for it!!!♥️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 26, 2024 at 2:37 pm

      I agree! Oh, we are in deep now and so excited! Thank you!

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  63. Sherry J says

    May 19, 2024 at 5:28 pm

    Looking forward to seeing what you do with your new home! Good to be closer to your friends! You made me he right choice.
    We were in Franklin the first weekend in May for our nephews wedding. We love it there!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 26, 2024 at 2:37 pm

      Thank you so much, Sherry! I appreciate the kind words!

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  64. Carole Kinkopf says

    May 26, 2024 at 3:10 pm

    Thank you for your honesty and hopefully it was cathartic sharing how you’ve been feeling for so very long. I’ve enjoyed following your journey through your moves, home projects and your lovely family. I wish you only the best. It’s always right to follow your heart and gut. Nashville will be lucky to have you all. Can’t wait to see the new home and your planned projects. 🙂

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:52 pm

      Carole, that really means a lot. Thank you for your support! I am so grateful. I can’t wait to share them with you!

      Reply
  65. Jeramie Geier says

    May 26, 2024 at 6:54 pm

    I love your bravery, your endurance, your humbleness, thank you for sharing and for inspiring! I can’t wait to see what’s in store for you and your family, and wow, who ever buys your renovated homes are so so blessed ❤️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:49 pm

      Wow, thank you for the support and kind words! It is so appreciated! We look forward to sharing our journey with you!

      Reply
  66. Terri ROMO says

    May 26, 2024 at 10:40 pm

    I’ve always been so proud of you, but this post takes it to a whole new level! Your future is so bright, and please know we are cheering from you in Arizona! ❤️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:33 pm

      Your kind words and support mean more than you know! Thank you so much for sharing them with me!

      Reply
  67. Blair says

    May 27, 2024 at 6:58 am

    Looking forward to following the upcoming remodel! Very happy for you all ❤️

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:23 pm

      Thank you so much! We can’t wait to share it with you!

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      May 28, 2024 at 6:54 pm

      Thank you! We are so excited!

      Reply
  68. Kelly Bickle says

    July 23, 2024 at 12:20 pm

    I’m so happy that you’re finding peace and balance in your life. I’ve been following since Mesa, I started for the DIY and just adore your family.
    I can’t imagine how hard it must be to open up with so much vulnerability to a world of strangers. Many that can be so cruel. Just know that you’re not only helping to show people how to create a beautiful home but to prioritize their own well being and family. I’m very happy for you, Craig and your sweet boys. I can’t wait to see how you make this house into a home and follow your continued journey to heal. I think many of us have been through similar and painful past and it’s good to know we’re not alone. I wish your family nothing but the best. 💕

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    • mallorynikolaus says

      August 22, 2024 at 7:37 pm

      Thank you so much! Your support means a lot!

      Reply

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